Manners a.k.a Etiquette

[Spoken Word]

Not weedsmoking ettiquette. Just social.

I've been reading through the forums and it's great to see other stoners that are intelectual and intelligent. It shows that we are not all a bunch of second class citizens like the gov't and anti-pot organizations try to precieve us as.

Anyways, coming from a completely Colombian household I was forced with manners and was always told to be polite. And now that I'm starting my adult life, I'm thankful and people always compliment me on mine. And it's just nice to be nice and for people to appreciate it.

I was just wondering if any of you give importance to social manners or etiquette? And what kind of things do you hate when people do?

For example, I hate it when people sneeze or cough and don't cover their mouths. ESPECIALLY if it's directed towards me and my pipe. lol

Or when I hold the door for people and they dont thank me, like if I'm some kind of fuckin doorman.

There are a lot more, but I'm just curious about yours.

[FreeVenice]

Manners and respect are like the number one rules of an Anarchist. . .lol rules

[memoryburner]

Dude...I HATE when people dont thank me for holding the door for them. Especially when they are old enough to know their manners.

[cannabis=freedom]

It's just basic common sense, or so we'd think, what to do and what not to do. To me it just doesn't make any sense to not thank a person who holds a door for you.

My pet peeve on manners would have to be when you have a conflict with someone and then apologize, and they just say "yup" like it was all your fault. Take at least some fucking responsibility for it; you were there too.

[FreeVenice]

Ya, but remember patients is part of good manners. Dicks are going to be dicks, there's almost no way around that. . .just don't let it effect your mood.

[cannabis=freedom]

Ya, but remember patients is part of good manners. Dicks are going to be dicks, there's almost no way around that. . .just don't let it effect your mood.

Yeah I hear that for sure. There's too much beauty in the world to get hung up on it.

[Spoken Word]

Ya, but remember patients is part of good manners. Dicks are going to be dicks, there's almost no way around that. . .just don't let it effect your mood.

Exactly. That's why I made the thread. So you can all tell me about it.:jointsmile:

[cannabis=freedom]

I hate it when a fight's going on and, instead of trying to break it up which is the right thing to do, they pull out their phone and start recording it like a dumbfuck to sickly enjoy violence later.

[Matt the Funk]

My manners are....hmm...I dunno, I try to just treat people how I would like to be treated. And when I am a dick, unless I think they deserved me being a dick, I apologize.

[Spoken Word]

Hmm. With the amount of hate and ignorance, it would be hard to say that fights are unavoidable(if thats a word)

And if I was fighting someone, I'd like to see the fight afterwards to see how I won or what I did wrong.

Fighting is kind of in the grey area.... Cause there isn't a lot to justify violence but I'm sure there's been times when people really needed to duke it out to let out anger towards each other.

[Matt the Funk]

When people are complete dicks or stare at you with an attitude I tell them off. Other than that I am nice and shit. I hate when people don't wash thier hands after going to the bathroom...just nasty...

[Breukelen advocaat]

I got on the subway two days ago, and there were very few empty seats. There was a pretty good cross-section of people, including loud high-school kids, which is not unusual where I live. I decided to sit between two people. Now, I'm pretty thin. As I was lowering myself into the seat, my bottom accidently bumped into a bag that this woman had on her lap that was hanging over my seat. She start's yelling at me, with an accent, "There's all these seats, and you have to pick this one........."

She didn't expect me to open my mouth, so I said something like I'm sorry, and she kept it up, so I blasted her, "It's YOUR bag that's in the way, I said I'm sorry, and YOU...,etc" - which the whole car heard, lol. I moved to a different seat, after I had the last word, and threw a sarcastic-sounding, "Ya know what I'm sayin'?", really loud. They don't expect men to answer back like that. Fuck 'em all. I'm crazy, and I don't start shit with people, but I'll always finish it if they do. When people see that you're like that, they always back off.

[FreeVenice]

I hate it when a fight's going on and, instead of trying to break it up which is the right thing to do, they pull out their phone and start recording it like a dumbfuck to sickly enjoy violence later.

Sorry, I got to disagree on this one. I think that a one on one bout between two individuals with mutual agression toward one another, must settle there differances. Hurting someones pride can be like a seed growing inside someone. I agree completly about the cell phone thing, those peeps deserve to be slapped. . .

It's not about enjoying violence, it's about releasing tension between the two. As much as I hate to say it, it is in our nature to battle, and I say keep it man to man/woman to woman. It's either this or you get a bunch of peeps with there head so far up their asses with arrogance that they go pushing themselves/there opinions where they are not need nor wanted. . . sorry wanting a documentry about christians. . .;)

[206 DankySpanky]

Not weedsmoking ettiquette. Just social.

I've been reading through the forums and it's great to see other stoners that are intelectual and intelligent. It shows that we are not all a bunch of second class citizens like the gov't and anti-pot organizations try to precieve us as.

Anyways, coming from a completely Colombian household I was forced with manners and was always told to be polite. And now that I'm starting my adult life, I'm thankful and people always compliment me on mine. And it's just nice to be nice and for people to appreciate it.

I was just wondering if any of you give importance to social manners or etiquette? And what kind of things do you hate when people do?

For example, I hate it when people sneeze or cough and don't cover their mouths. ESPECIALLY if it's directed towards me and my pipe. lol

Or when I hold the door for people and they dont thank me, like if I'm some kind of fuckin doorman.

There are a lot more, but I'm just curious about yours.

hey im colombian too!

very cool.

were u born in Colombia? If so even more cool:thumbsup:

lol, i was born in Cali sorta near Bogota.

anyways if uve ever been back there have u found the bud??. its crazy if u know the right people my cousin grows som crazy strains so when i go down there it like heaven, and the cops dont give a fuck. i live in seattle now but i went back to Colombia the past 2 summers and o baby my cousin who lives ther has some crazy shiieet. the best thing is u can smoke a j while walkin down the street, cops dont care, or u just give them like 5 bucks to leave u alone its great. and when i go all my weed is FREE. the dankest bud ive ever smoked too. but thats because i have family out there with land so they can grow. god its great.

bud is also really cheap there. like unbeievebly cheap like $1 a gram so its basically the best place ever:D

[206 DankySpanky]

sorry my post was completely off topic

[Kid Dynamite]

Dude...I HATE when people dont thank me for holding the door for them. Especially when they are old enough to know their manners.

yeah that really gets me too...i mean a thankyou doesen't hurt does it. Some people, not being sexist, but often teenage girls just act as though your their personal door opener, so they dont need to thank you...

[FreeVenice]

I say if they haven't said thank you by the time they cross by you. . .Trip them. . .lol, it doesn't have to be to the floor. Just a little stumble to shake them up. . .:D

[stinkyattic]

Manners are very important to me and always have been. I was raised pretty strictly and table manners were like rule #1 of our house... I always got the sense that my mother saw an orderly meal as a microcosm of the life she had always aspired to, far removed from her hardscrabble roots.
So my table manners are ridiculous and I consider eating dinner in front of the TV completely abhorrent unless there's a REALLY good reason for it [*cough* red sox game].
Also thanking people!!
Huge thing for me.
Being respectful to waitstaff and retail workers is IMHO incredibly important- Having worked in restaurants all through college and then after when I was trying to buy my house, I'm apalled by the total demanding, condescending, assholes that seemingly normal people can turn into when they walk into a restaurant. Some lowly busboy comes by to fill your water, say thanks to the kid- friendliness makes the difference between a good work environment and a bad one and you both go home happier, unless you are a total douchebag who ENJOYS putting the working class in their place in the mud.
Rant!!!

[napolitana869]

Opening the door for people is one of my big things. What really bothers me is that normally when you open a door for someone they kind of grab it as well and hold it open for the person behind them, I hate it when the person you're holding it for just keeps on walking and doesnt do anything and you're stuck holding the door for 10 people. I had a friend that use to do this so I just started closing the door on her. Please and Thankyou are big in my book too. I just really hate rude people in general. People interrupting me is bad too. Bad manners is one of the only things that really makes me lose my temper at people.

[EE2000]

I grew up in the south, I was taught to be nice and polite, and mind my manners. I say yes sir or no sir ( or ma'am depending on gender ).

I have never been impolite on purpose, its not who I am. Me and my SO say thankyou alot to each other, if I cook dinner he thanks me, if he cleans the snow off my car or brings me coffee at work I say thankyou. Its the way we are. I couldn't picture being impolite.

[Nation_1ne]

The other day I was in the Fish n' Chip shop getting some dinner, after I had played basket ball down the park. Anyway I went in and had to ask a few customers if they were waiting to order, which they weren't so I went and ordered my food. As I was leaning against the wall waiting for my order this old woman came up to me and put her hand on my arm, I was thinking "Wha'?" she proceeded to tell me how she was happy to see me because I have good manners and am well spoken. I then turned around and pushed her over and laughed.....just kidding. I did wonder to myself whether she'd think the same if she knew I smoked weed though.

[Kid Dynamite]

The other day I was in the Fish n' Chip shop getting some dinner, after I had played basket ball down the park. Anyway I went in and had to ask a few customers if they were waiting to order, which they weren't so I went and ordered my food. As I was leaning against the wall waiting for my order this old woman came up to me and put her hand on my arm, I was thinking "Wha'?" she proceeded to tell me how she was happy to see me because I have good manners and am well spoken. I then turned around and pushed her over and laughed.....just kidding. I did wonder to myself whether she'd think the same if she knew I smoked weed though.

if she knew she's probably mace you to the floor and call the police.

[Bob the Awesome]

I still act very polite to almost all people, unless they're being rude first. As breukelen said, no need to start shit, but it's good to finish it if you're right.

I don't think, however, most people are polite, or that you need to be polite to get somewhere in life. 'Successful' people aren't known for always necessarily being polite, some are, some aren't.

I don't know why I keep doing it, call me crazy, I guess it's a golden-rule thing or something else.

[ATrain]

I think manners are key and I certainly don't think enough parents teach their kids how to act polite :(

For me, it all comes down to please and thank you. If you use those words things seem to run a lot smoother :jointsmile:

[cannabis=freedom]

Also when someone tries to talk to you, be responsive, you know? I see WAY too many teens who when adults try to talk to them, they nod a little and don't even look at them. And I understand that if you're a shy person there's little you can do, but it's not acceptable when these guys can talk perfectly fine to another teenager like me.

[BizzleLuvin]

i was supposed to say 'ma'am' and 'sir' when i was growing up. people compliment me all the time with my random 'yes ma'ams'. i want my kids to do it too

[ATrain]

i was supposed to say 'ma'am' and 'sir' when i was growing up. people compliment me all the time with my random 'yes ma'ams'. i want my kids to do it too

I think that is a fantastic way to be raised! :thumbsup: Have respect for your elders and just try and be polite to everyone.

[napolitana869]

I never had to say yes ma'am or sir, but my parents raised me to believe that bad manners were a sign of poor parenting and that I had to be polite or else it would reflect badly on them. I still think that bad manners show how well parents raise thier kids. There are way to many kids going around today cusing at their parents and being little jack asses in general. I dont know if its that their parents dont try or that the kids dont care.

[slowlickitysplit]

Not weedsmoking ettiquette. Just social.

I've been reading through the forums and it's great to see other stoners that are intelectual and intelligent. It shows that we are not all a bunch of second class citizens like the gov't and anti-pot organizations try to precieve us as.

Anyways, coming from a completely Colombian household I was forced with manners and was always told to be polite. And now that I'm starting my adult life, I'm thankful and people always compliment me on mine. And it's just nice to be nice and for people to appreciate it.

I was just wondering if any of you give importance to social manners or etiquette? And what kind of things do you hate when people do?

For example, I hate it when people sneeze or cough and don't cover their mouths. ESPECIALLY if it's directed towards me and my pipe. lol

Or when I hold the door for people and they dont thank me, like if I'm some kind of fuckin doorman.

There are a lot more, but I'm just curious about yours.

My favorite thing to do to the ungratefull jerks who don't say thanks for holding the door....Real loud and clear say "YOUR WELCOME!"...If they turn and start shit just say "I thought you said thank you". get's a funny/embarrased look every time!

Cell phones a a big source of bad manners and irritation for me. Telling your loved one that he/she is a jerk while sharing an elevator with me might force me to start singing..loudly..off key! LOL

- Slow _

[halfassedjediknight]

I hate it when, at work, I say hello to a customer and ask how they are doing or how their day is going and they just stare and ignore me or something.

Id like to send them off and say "hey fuck you very much!" but id hate to be so low.

Usually I just try to use the do unto others rule and treat people how I would like to be treated. If I give them my respect, I expect theirs as well.

[Reefer Rogue]

Yeah, i hate saying hi to a customer at work and then they obviously heard me and choose not to respond. It makes me want to say I fucking said hello you dick! But, i don't...

[mulltie]

Shop assistants are the worst.. like i hand them whatever money and i wait for my change and instead of handing it to me the cunts fuck it at ya or even worse scatter it all over the counter.. and its just pure rudness..really pisses me off plus these shop owners shud think twice about who they employ stropy teenagers etc..i dont mind the migrant workers in shops.. there grande sumtimes give ya extra change and drop it straight onto your palm :D

[markomon]

I can relate to most everybodies pet peeves on this subject. Generally speaking I have found that the only person I can change/be responsible is
myself. I wonder if folks don't give thanks when you hold a door open for them it may be a trust issue , like what is your ulterior motive for opening that door for me? You gay or something equally fucked up. I am happy to hear that other pot users at least try to show some manners.

[JohnGalt]

I hate it when a fight's going on and, instead of trying to break it up which is the right thing to do, they pull out their phone and start recording it like a dumbfuck to sickly enjoy violence later.

Heh, I think that you go to my school :P, this seriously happened like a week ago. Two chicks were fighting and no one really tried to break them up, but people were recording it and put it on YouTube. . . The school got really pissed off about it too.

On manners though, the next day somebody chewed up a chocolate bar and spit it out in the cafeteria and everyone thought it was shit. . .Lol, my school is fucked up.

[thcbongman]

lmao.

I went to a party and the first thing I see walking in is these 2 chicks beating the shit outta each other. Well, not really but pulling each other hair and stuff. Not one person did anything to break it up. All over some dick, funny as hell, they moved all around the house and everyone form a circled and moved when they moved.

There were a couple more fights at that party, heck I almost got into a fight because one guy was trying to talk hard to the owner of the house and I backed him up, but the guy was too much of a pussy. 1/2 an hour later, while I was snorting coke in the basement with a couple of girls, the police broke that shit up. I dumped all that shit and got the fuck outta there!

[xblackdogx]

i always have good manners, like greeting a person when ordering food, holding doors open, saying thank you. i think it's funny when you say thank you to someone and they don't even respond; i can't tell if people like that are horribly miserable or just that unresponsive to polite interactions.

btw,
Great thread!

[TheGreenFog]

I say if they haven't said thank you by the time they cross by you. . .Trip them. . .lol, it doesn't have to be to the floor. Just a little stumble to shake them up. . .:D

^LMAO. That dooor gets me too. Kid Dynamite, I agree that it is mostly pretty women who are rude and don't thank you. I will ALMOST always thank someone when they've held the door. The only time I might not, is if I was RIGHT behind them and they didn't really hold it. I will still most of the time say a really quite "thanks." like, thanks for the effort.


Manners are very important to me and always have been. I was raised pretty strictly and table manners were like rule #1 of our house... I always got the sense that my mother saw an orderly meal as a microcosm of the life she had always aspired to, far removed from her hardscrabble roots.
So my table manners are ridiculous and I consider eating dinner in front of the TV completely abhorrent unless there's a REALLY good reason for it [*cough* red sox game].
Also thanking people!!
Huge thing for me.
Being respectful to waitstaff and retail workers is IMHO incredibly important- Having worked in restaurants all through college and then after when I was trying to buy my house, I'm apalled by the total demanding, condescending, assholes that seemingly normal people can turn into when they walk into a restaurant. Some lowly busboy comes by to fill your water, say thanks to the kid- friendliness makes the difference between a good work environment and a bad one and you both go home happier, unless you are a total douchebag who ENJOYS putting the working class in their place in the mud.
Rant!!!

I hear you completely about the courtesy in restaurants and general other business establishments. It is almost like everyone is SO busy that they act like the typical busy jerk businessman. People don't appreciate the services that are provided for them to the extent that they should, IMO. I hear people bitching about how their whole dining experience better be impeccable, or that little waiter/waitress isn't getting a dime for a tip. Then at the same time, they don't even say thank you the 4 times the waiter comes to fill up their water.

I've found that you can really almost FORCE someone to smile if you say "Thanks" and look them directly in the eyes and give them a little smile. Almost everywhere I try that, it seems to work. It's an old Sociology experiment. I didn't make it up, but I use it, and it seems to then make both parties feel a moment of "ahhh." You don't have to be a creep about it, just a GENUINE thank you weighs much more than a fleeting, no-eye contact utterance.


The Fog :rastasmoke:

[stinkyattic]

I hear people bitching about how their whole dining experience better be impeccable, or that little waiter/waitress isn't getting a dime for a tip. :
Yeah that disgusts me.
There are plenty of things the waiters can't control that I've seen people not tip over, no matter how much grace the waitperson handles it with- it's so wrong- and people don't realize that there is an alternate minimum wage for tipped waitstaff, which in my state is only like $3- something an hour.

[Spoken Word]

Or when people eat with they're mouths open.
Or when people belch REALLY loud or fart right around me.

I dunno to me manners are like making people around feel as comfortable as possible. Some people just don't give a fuck.

[pass the chicken]

any one ever had someone pick their nose and expect you to hand them the joint?

[Wintersweet]

Also when someone tries to talk to you, be responsive, you know? I see WAY too many teens who when adults try to talk to them, they nod a little and don't even look at them. And I understand that if you're a shy person there's little you can do, but it's not acceptable when these guys can talk perfectly fine to another teenager like me.

I pretty much agree. Though I can see where a difference in talking to teens vs adults can come up. See, I'm really shy, and don't like looking at people. But I have a much easier time looking at and talking to people my own age than adults.
Unless I'm high. But that's a different story...marijuana makes me less shy somehow.

I guess it's all about reading the person.
If you, say, open a door for someone, and they don't give a nod, don't make eye contact, and don't break the conversation they're having with someone...then that's plain rude. They need manners.
But if you open the door and the person musters up a smile and nod (...which is sometimes the best I can come up with), it's not lack of manners, but a lack of confidence.

Sorry, I'm rambling a bit.
I just felt I needed to bring up that distinction again...I dunno. Speaking up for the shy people, I suppose.
:)